You love your family deeply — but some days, everything just feels loud and is overwhelming

The mess, the schedule, the meals, the emotions, the expectations… all of it can feel like too much.

And the hard part? These are the things that often pull us away from the moments that matter most — being present with our families.

Things get so overwhelming and chaotic, that it makes it hard to breathe some days and even harder to enjoy the life that is in front of us.

I’ve been there too, in fact some days I’m still there too. 

I’ve had seasons when the house never felt cleaned, someone was always having a melt down and some days it was me and I always felt behind. 

I used to believe I just needed to just try harder — work later, plan better, clean faster and maybe the chaos would go away. 

But it didn’t.

The shift came when I stopped trying to control everything…
and started building calm through small, faithful resets.

Resets that were realistic. Rhythms that stuck.
And most of all — grace-filled routines that supported the season I was in.

Why Is Chaos So Draining?

Chaos doesn’t just wear us out physically — it’s emotionally and mentally exhausting.

It creates:

• Decision fatigue
• Mental clutter
• Short tempers and tension
• Guilt that you “should be able to handle more”

I recently was having a conversation with a mom about wanting to declutter her home and become a minimalist, but her husband and kids weren’t ready for that. Here’s some hard truth mama. 

When your home feels out of control, you start to feel out of control. Your kids start to feel out of control. It’s overwhelming. Clutter is everywhere in our homes, schedules, to-do lists, our hearts and minds. 

The littlest thing sets us off when we’re overwhelmed. You snap at your kids over a chair not being pushed in or crumbs on the counter, you forget what’s on your to-do list. You forget appointments. I could go on and on. 

Then we start to spiral of guilt and shame and think, “Why can’t I keep up?”

But here’s the truth:
You weren’t meant to run on chaos.
You were created to live in peace.

“For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” – 1 Corinthians 14:33

And that peace doesn’t come from doing more. It really comes from building rhythms that support you — not overwhelm you. Building routines that work. 

The Power of Resets and Routines

When I first started simplifying my home and life, I didn’t overhaul everything at once.
I started with closing down my kitchen each night. Loading the dishwasher, wiping the counters and vacuuming the floor. Walking into a clean first thing in the morning was a huge load lifted off my shoulders. I was starting the day off right.

Then I started meal planning and meal prepping.

Then I added a morning routine.
Then a 15-minute family tidy.
And little by little, the chaos began to calm.

Little by little I stopped being so overwhelmed. 

These small rhythms became my lifeline:

• A daily reset for the spaces we use most
• A weekly rhythm for laundry and meals
• A morning routine that gave me a peaceful start
• An evening routine that helped me rest

These routines aren’t strict, instead they’re flexible to work with what season of mom life we’re in. They’re grace-filled.
But they give our day structure and reduce stress for everyone.

Because when I’m calm… my home feels calmer.
When there’s a rhythm… my kids know what to expect and they help.
And when we hit reset… we all get to start again — without guilt.

How Calm Is Built in Small, Faithful Steps

I used to think the house to be perfect and my to-do list had to be done, to feel calm. 

But I was wrong.

It comes from:

• Doing one thing at a time
• Creating habits that support your season
• Saying no to what doesn’t matter
• Inviting God into the middle of your mess

And most of all — it comes from choosing progress over perfection.

So often we wait for the “right time” to start anything. Whether it’s a routine, decluttering or starting a new rhythm. We even say on Monday we’ll start working out. 

What I learned is that we can start anything anytime. One small act of intention can bring peace to you, your family and day.

Just one drawer. One 15-minute tidy. One moment of stillness before the day begins.

And over time, these small acts stack up — and your home becomes a place of peace again.

So start today.

We Can Do This Together

If you’re tired of the chaos and being overwhelmed and ready for a fresh start, you’re not alone.

I created The Simplified Mom to help overwhelmed moms build grace-filled routines, reset their homes, and create rhythms that actually work.

You don’t have to figure it all out today.
You just need one small step. One step that I will take with you. 

You don’t have to live in chaos.
You don’t have to earn peace.
You just have to begin — one small step at a time.

And I’m right here walking with you.

With love and grace,