💗 When the Hard Days Take a Toll on Mom Life

There are moments I absolutely love being a mom.
The moments that are full of laughter, cuddles, breakthroughs and joy I never thought I’d experience.

But there are also moments when I just don’t like it, because they are really tough and hard. I feel like everything is falling apart. The days that are full of arguing, the meltdowns, the endless messes, the emotional weight of holding everyone together… it can be a lot and wear you down. 

And if you’ve ever thought, “I love my kids, but this is really hard, I need a break for 5 minutes, maybe even 10,” you’re not alone.

The Hard Days Can Make You Question Everything

The days when someone’s having a meltdown before 8 a.m., you’re stepping on legos everywhere and no one seems to listen no matter how many times you ask nicely—those are the days that wear on you. In my case the constant lying and noises gets me good.

I’ve had days where I’ve thought:

• Why is everything always on me?
• I don’t even know who I am anymore.
• I feel like I’m failing—and I don’t know how to change it.

Here’s the truth, those feelings don’t mean I’m failing as a mom.
They just mean I’m human and I’m being honest. 

You Can Love Your Kids and Still Feel Overwhelmed

We’ve been taught that being a “good mom” means loving every second.
But that’s just not real life. 

Yes, I love being a mom. Yes, I love my kids with everything in me.
But the hard days are still hard. The days no one talks about. 

I’ll be honest—I don’t love the constant noise. Or the nonstop talking.
But I’ve learned to stop and remind myself: this noise won’t always be here.
And if I’m always saying, “Stop talking,” they may not talk when I need them to.

Motherhood is exhausting. It’s emotional. It’s heavy.
And it’s okay to grieve the parts of yourself that feel lost in the process.

I became a mom overnight—and I had to learn that needing a break didn’t make me weak, it actually made me stronger.
Sometimes, going to your room for quiet is the healthiest thing you can do.
Sometimes, hiring a sitter or stepping away for an afternoon helps you come back better.

What’s Helped Me Through the Hard Days

I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve found a few things that help me breathe when I feel like I’m drowning:

1. Naming the Hard Doesn’t Make You Ungrateful

Saying, “This is hard” doesn’t mean I don’t love my kids or my life.
It means I need support.

The other day, I told my husband I needed a break.
I had just taken the kids on a trip by myself, came home to a full week, and one kid was still finishing school.
So Jim took them out for a bit so I could have quiet.
Because the noise—that gets me the most.

Being honest about what’s hard is how I find what helps.

2. Creating Rhythms That Lighten the Load

Simple routines—like morning resets, meal prepping, and 15-minute tidies—don’t fix everything.
But they make the day feel manageable.
They make the week feel lighter.

3. Letting Go of the Guilt

This one’s hard.
The guilt for not loving every moment. The guilt for wanting alone time.

But here’s the reminder I come back to:
My kids don’t need a perfect mom. They need a grounded, real one.

4. Leaning on God and Others

The mental load of motherhood can be so isolating.
But I wasn’t meant to carry it all on my own.

Prayer. Quiet moments with God. Going to God with struggles and being honest with Him. I start every day with God and that helps keep me grounded. But when the days get tough I go back to Him and ask for help.
And connecting with someone who just gets it—that’s been everything.

Don’t get me wrong I love being a mom, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But admitting it can be hard or you’re in a hard season is important.

Final Thoughts 💗

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough…
If the weight of motherhood feels like it might crush you…
If you’ve whispered “I don’t like this” in the middle of the mess…

You are not a bad mom. You’re not alone. You’re not failing.
You’re just tired. You’re stretched. And you’re doing the best you can.

Motherhood isn’t always beautiful. But there is beauty in your honesty, in your showing up and in your decision to keep loving through the hard days.

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