For years, I believed a good mom could do it all, I really believed it and actually tried too. Can we say big ol’ fail?
Homeschool, therapies, clean house, homemade meals, lessons, church, friendships… all without skipping a beat. As moms we really try to do it all, don’t we?

But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way: doing it all doesn’t work. It left me tired, resentful, cranky and missing the moments that actually mattered. 

The shift came when I realized — I don’t need to stop doing it all. I just need to do what matters most in this season. Some seasons are busier than others and some are slower. And we need to adjust to those seasons. 

Now this is what I do.

1. I Choose My Top 3 Priorities

Instead of tackling a never-ending to-do list, I pick three things that matter most each day.
Some days it’s homeschool lessons, a reset or 2 and cooking dinner. Other days it’s therapy appointments, work and family time. Some days it is homeschooling, therapy and work. Each day is different and that’s okay. 

👉 Everything else is extra.

2. I Do Resets Instead of Deep Clean (perfect if you don’t like cleaning)

I don’t spend hours scrubbing anymore. I focus on small resets:

• 15 minutes after breakfast to clean the kitchen.
• Afternoon reset with the kids (they tidy one area, while I work on another area, like my bathroom).
• Close down the kitchen every night so mornings are easy. Walking downstairs to a clean kitchen really does make a huge difference.

It’s amazing how these little rhythms keep our home livable without draining me. And I never spend hours and hours cleaning.

3. I Simply Meal Plan 

Gone are the days of elaborate Pinterest menus. Instead, I:

• Rotate a handful of go-to dinners.
• Use crockpot and sheet pan meals when the day runs long.
• Double recipes and and use for leftovers and freeze extras.

This means less stress at 5 p.m. and more energy to actually enjoy dinner with my family. Less trips to the grocery store and more time for what’s important. 

4. I Build in Rest

Rest used to feel “unproductive.” Now I see it as essential.

• Devotions and workout before the kids wake up.
• Sitting outside while they play, which is my favorite thing to do
• Afternoon cup of coffee and a few minutes to myself.

It doesn’t take much — but it refuels me for everything else.

5. I Protect Our Margin

We don’t say yes to every activity or invite. Protecting white space in our schedule gives us breathing room. I move therapy appointments and lessons to work for our schedule. I don’t want to be going every day of the week.
That margin helps our family actually enjoy the things we do choose — instead of rushing from one thing to the next.

The Positive of Doing Less

When I stopped trying to do it all, I noticed:

• More patience and laughter in our home, I wasn’t exhausted all the time.
• A calmer atmosphere, even on messy days. Less yelling.
• More energy for connection instead of just checking boxes. I’m actually productive in a different way.

💗 Friend, you were never meant to do it all, so please stop trying.  — but you can create rhythms that make life feel lighter. It’s not about perfection, so let’s stop trying. It’s about choosing what matters most in this season.

What season are you in right now?

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Love and Support,

Billie-Jo