There are days when I lay my head on the pillow and wonder if I did anything right? Why was the day so hard? 

The homeschool room was left a mess, the kids room looks like a disaster and someone cried during math, I lost my patience (again), and the laundry I meant to fold is still sitting in the basket… for the second day in a row. 

And in those moments, I start to spiral: Am I messing them up? Am I too tired to be the mom they need? Why does it feel like I’m the only one who can’t seem to hold it all together? Am I failing as a mom? 

But here’s what I’m learning—and maybe what you need to hear too:

You’re not failing. You’re just in the thick of it.

You’re showing up on the hard days. You’re making meals, wiping tears, driving kids around and trying again—over and over. You’re learning right alongside your kids. You’re carrying the invisible load that no one else sees. A load that can be heavy and hard.

That’s not failure. That’s love in motion.

I’ve had to remind myself that we don’t measure motherhood by how perfect the day went—we measure it by how faithfully we keep showing up.

If you feel like you’re giving your all and it’s still not enough, here’s what I’m reminding myself (and you):

• Our presence is more powerful than our perfection. It shouldn’t be about perfection.
• Our kids don’t need a flawless mom—they need a grounded and present one.
• The grace we give ourselves is the grace our children will learn to carry too.

So if today felt heavy… if your patience was thin… if the routines didn’t work and the plan fell apart—take a deep breath with me.

We’re not alone in this.

We’re not too late.

And we are definitely not failing.

We’re just tired moms doing incredibly holy work. 🩷

Let’s keep walking this together—with grace, not guilt.

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Love and Support,

Billie-Jo

The Simplified Mom